Has human tainted with imperfection. It is impossible to please everyone one in fact it is difficult to please everyone all the time.
Sometimes there are steps you can take to get people to like you more, but other times there is nothing you can do except learn to deal with their dislike of you.
Therefore, You can learn to accept being disliked as a normal part of life that everyone experiences, and also take steps to improve yourself and become more self-confident so that you are not as bothered by being disliked in the first place.
“If your number one goal is to make sure that everyone likes and approves of you, then you risk sacrificing your uniqueness, and, therefore, your excellence" ~Unknown
Some people are chronic people's pleaser. They emit the signs: They risk their health, soundness of mind and life to help others in extreme to be accepted even when they are not supposed to do so.
If they are insulted, or physically and emotionally abused by so called social circle they strive to force themselves on others to be accepted even apologize as if is their fault. Some make an apology card that reads, “I’m sorry for disappointing you ” And despite all their efforts to be liked by everyone, many people still keep on disrespecting them
Maybe that’s you, maybe it’s not—but odds are, you can relate at least a little to the desire to be well-liked. Who doesn’t want to feel accepted, respected, and appreciated?
Just like my friend in most of his life, his need to be liked overshadowed all other needs. He was always trying to manipulate perception, adapting himself to receive validation. It was physically draining him and even counterproductive, unknown to many of his friends.
Sometimes it is actually a good sign if some people don’t accept or agree with you.
This doesn't mean you are being rude, inconsiderate, or disrespectful. So This write up is not about disregarding other people’s feelings.
This post is about releasing our stress about other people’s opinions.
When you are comfortable not being liked by everyone:
1. It allows you to be true to yourself.
The biggest disservice you can do yourself is shapeshifting to please your “audience” of the moment. It’s exhausting (even to watch) and, more importantly, pointless. No one will get to know who you really are, which will leave you feeling empty.
2. It gives you the power to say no.
I believe people are good at heart. Still, it’s human nature to test each other’s boundaries. When you’re willing to risk being disliked, you’re able to say no when you need to. Your yeses and nos shapes your future, so choose them wisely.
3. It teaches you to become aware of and manage your feelings.
How are you going to make peace with your emotions if you don't embrace them as you feel them? Recognizing the difference between what you love and what you hate will just teach you about the things you will and will not accept in your life.
4. It's being strong enough to let people hate you back.
Too many people are people pleasers in this life, and that is absolutely nothing to be desired. Why should you waste your precious time and energy on pleasing people when the person you should be most concerned with is yourself?
How does being a yes-man get you anywhere in life? It doesn't, and everyone needs to stop doing it.
5. You can freely express your thoughts.
One of the kindest things you can do for someone else is listen without judging. You deserve that same kindness, but you won’t always get it. People will form opinions as you speak. Talk anyway. Let your words be kind but fearless.
The symptoms of relative insanity is striving to please everyone to be validated by them, thereby losing your self-worth and respect in the ocean of vanity acceptance by imperfect human like you, a waste of your uniqueness. - Enakpodia famous.
6. It validates people you actually like.
How else are you going to stay true to the people you really like if you aren't aware of the people you don't like? This will just make you appreciate the people in your life more and more.
7. It teaches you to offer kindness and compassion without expectations.
It’s not difficult to offer compassion to someone who treats you with respect and kindness. What’s more valuable for your personal development, and to humanity as whole, is the ability to do what’s right because it’s right—not because you get something in return.
8. It's liberating to let go of people.
Playing off the previous point, once you realize what your threshold is, you can start to make the necessary adjustments in your life.
If you aren't losing friends, then you aren't really growing up because, as you age, your priorities shift and some people who once played major roles in your life might just not fit in so well anymore.
9. You can use your time wisely.
If you want to be liked by everyone, odds are you’re spreading yourself way too thin trying to keep them all happy. We need to use our time judiciously to enrich ourselves and others instead of worrying about everyone’s perceptions.
10. You can choose to smile anyway.
You could use your energy to make daily inventories of everything that’s wrong—the money you don’t have, the esteem you didn’t earn, the people you disappointed. Or you could commit to being your best, and then just sit back and smile. Life will always be a balancing act. Learn to teeter in serenity.
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