Why do my friends want me to fail

The people in your life love you...but they want you to fail

We assume the people in our lives, our family, our friends, our colleagues are rooting for our success. It's nice to think that isn't it? Unfortunately, it's simply not true.

Of course there will always be people in your life that genuinely wish for your success, but much more often than we'd like to think, even the people who love you the most, may wish for your failure and in some cases even try to sabotage you.

There are five reasons for this:

1- YOU REMIND THEM OF THEIR FAILURE
When Your friends notice that you are successful in your field of choice,career,academics and business it quickly remind them of their failures and because they are certain that they can't do it they prefer to stay away from you not to remember that fact again. So they have a strong desire for you to fail in order to be in the same situation.

2- JEALOUSY
Is a resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, etc., or against another's success or advantage itself.

Or a mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear of rivalry, unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims.

Jealousy makes some people feel worthless especially those who have low self esteem feel worthless more when they see someone close to them succeeding. As a result they prefer to stay away from that person in order to feel good about themselves. The jealousy can blind them to an extent that they prefer their friend to fail in as much that their success is less compare to their friend. So they wish failure to their friend secretly even though they eat, drink and play together. So pathetic.

3- TO MAKE THEM FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES 
So some people want you to fail, not because they think you deserve it, not even because it is in their interests – they simply want to see you fail to make them feel better about themselves. People generally don't like others to succeed more than them especially those close friends they started life together at tender age. Knowing their strength, weakness and background, makes them feel worse about themselves and present situation seeing you succeed more than them. Hence, they want you to fail to be equal to their level even below it.

4- INSECURITY 
People who Don't feel good about themselves and who are not confident in their abilities they don't often feel good when they see others succeeding. They feel insecure seeing others being successful. They don't believe  that they can succeed unconsciously sometimes conscious due to past experience of failure and as a result they feel intimidated by the achievements of others.
It will not be so surprising for these people to wish their close associates failure in their endeavour.

5- THEY DON'T WANT TO LEAVE YOU 
Most times the people around you subconsciously don't want you to succeed because they are afraid that success will take you away from them. On some level they think that you will move on to "bigger and better things." They will have a measurable wish for such successful individuals to fail.

OTHERS INCLUDE
1. Scarcity mentality. You believe that there is limited supply of resources out there. So, when others win, you are left with a sense of inner failure.

2. Competition mindset. You see the world as one big race where everyone is contesting against everyone else. You feel that your own success or wellbeing is always being threatened by other people’s progress.

3. Using others to measure your level of success. You measure your own success in relation to other people. When others around you succeed, you feel like a failure.

4. The subconscious yearning for supremacy. You resent others around you doing better than yourself. You will rather be a big fish in a small pond than being a small fish in a big pond.

5. A sense of inner inadequacy to succeed. You feel that you lack the raw potentiality or the will-power to succeed in a big way in life. As a result, when others fail, you feel a little bit better about yourself.

You have to be always aware of the people who seem unhappy when you succeed. Even if it wasn't about you and those people felt bad when someone else succeeded you still need to be very careful of them for their way of thinking will be the same with you or anyone else.

And just like they say, beware of the people who don't clap their hands when you succeed.