Why friends become enemy

Friendship is a relationship of mutual affection between people. Friendship is a stronger form of interpersonal bond than an association. Friendship has been studied in academic fields such as communication, sociology, social psychology, anthropology, and philosophy.

Friendships are unique relationships because unlike family relationships, we choose to enter into them. And unlike other voluntary bonds, like marriages and romantic relationships, they lack a formal structure. You wouldn’t go months without speaking to or seeing your significant other (hopefully), but you might go that long without contacting a friend.

The beautiful, special thing about friendship, that friends are friends because they want to be, that they choose each other, is “a double agent,”-“because I can choose to get in, and I can choose to get out.”

Throughout life, from grade school to the retirement home, friendship continues to confer health benefits, both mental and physical. But as life accelerates, people’s priorities and responsibilities shift, and friendships are affected, for better, or often, sadly, for worse.

1-BETRAYAL OF TRUST 
Betrayal is the sense of being harmed by the intentional actions or omissions of a trusted person. The most common forms of betrayal are harmful disclosures of confidential information, disloyalty, infidelity, dishonesty. They can be traumatic and cause considerable distress. The effects of betrayal include shock, loss and grief, morbid pre-occupation, damaged self-esteem, self-doubting, anger. Not infrequently they produce life-altering changes.

A friend being betray by close friend he/she trusted for the best reasons or years of friendship can be traumatic beyond words. Such singular act turns best friends into enemy. The emotional betrayal they felt can trigger a life threatening hatred which might result to gruesome tragedy like death or violent injury. Also if not control by the victim of the betrayed, it can result to measurable insanity like Obsessive Compulsive Disorder(OCD) and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder(PTSD) or as the case may be into full blown insanity.

2- INGRAIN JEALOUSY

Wanting what your friends have is not unusual, and enjoying the opportunity to share what they have can be a pleasure booster—but resentment of their good fortune is not. If you enjoy a friend's company and value the relationship, you need to keep your negative, less hospitable feelings under wraps. It’s what good friends do.

Jealousy can be a complex and painful emotion. It can reflect our own sense of inner insecurity and insufficient sense of self-worth. Jealousy of others’
Success, Talent, creativity, happiness, healthy relationships and being much liked by people or popular also can hold us back from fully engaging in relationships with people for whom we may care deeply.
However, if such jealousy is not put under lock and key it is a potential time bomb to end good and healthy friendship, thereby transforming it into new fresh enemy. That might be the end of their friendship. So rooted jealousy can turn best friends into enemy if caution is thrown into the air and kept hanging for a long time when the problem is not fixed at proper time.

3- GREEDINESS
Greed cultivates an overwhelming desire for more wealth and materialism which leads down a dark path of being unsatisfied and unhappy. It can be intentional, but more often it exists in subtle, disguised forms. 
the true danger of greed is that one becomes so obsessed with the object of his or her desire that it becomes the only thing that is important. Someone possessed by greed develops tunnel vision and in that tunnel, they can see only their own selfish desire.
Greedy people walk all over the rights and needs of their closest friend and others and to them it is no big thing. Along with are the only things that count.

A greedy husband or wife makes a miserable marriage. A greedy politician makes a miserable life for his or her constituents. A greedy boss makes miserable employees. So also A greedy friend makes a miserable best friend.

A close friend can be an  enemy if the act of the greedy fellow affect the others negatively, outrightly and constantly, which lead to financial loss, material possessions, strain relationship with other friends and family. It will create distrust and dishonesty. Such greedy friend will be view as an enemy of progress or a seed of wickedness to value, virtue, trust and friendship.

4- TURNING THEIR BACK DURING HARD TIMES 
It is a worst scenario when you are in a difficult situation and you count on your so call best friend and he/she turned their back on you, you felt helpless, hopeless and faithless. What is left in you is anger, sadness, pain, confusion and disappointment. Such situation can turn even a good friend to an enemy especially when they have the power or resources to help the situation, but knowingly declined with baseless excuse. Trials do unveil a true friend.

5-BEING A BAD FRIEND CAN TURN WORST ENEMY
Friends are supposed to be good for you. In recent years, scientific research has suggested that people who have strong friendships experience less stress, they recover more quickly from heart attacks and they are likely to live longer than the friendless. They are even less susceptible to the common cold, studies show.

But not all friends have such a salutary effect. Some lie, insult and betray. Some are overly needy. Some give too much advice. 

A bad friend can influence marital breakdown between husband, wife and families. In fact recent study proved that 50 percent divorce rate, have added weight to the role of friends in emotional and physical health.

Some bad friend will draw their close friend  into criminal or otherwise ill-advised pursuit that might cause temporary or permanent injury.bad friend become enemy when they EMOTIONALLY abuse their close pal which may not be noticeable than verbal abuse, but it is ''more insidious and destructive,''

Bad Friend can become an enemy when they overly dependent,they never listens and meddles too much in a friend's life, thereby ruin their egg-like friendship.

They can even have a romantic affair secretly at your back or even openly to your potential marriage mate and snatch it away from you to know how desperate they are.

Their bad intentions can end your romantic relationship for life if your partner prefer to continue the relationship with them instead of you. That is a blow to your emotion, that might takes time to heal. They become worse of worst enemy to you.

              DEPARTING QUOTE 
True friendship multiplies the good in life and divides its evils. Strive to have friends, for life without friends is like life on a desert island… to find one real friend in a lifetime is good fortune; to keep him is a blessing.